5 Ways to Get Back at Your Ex

5 Ways to Get Back at Your Ex

Relationships are fragile bonds that need to be built up and maintained in order to keep them healthy and allow them to flourish. Unfortunately, break ups do happen, and they are nerve wracking, stressful and frustrating. If you are involved in a relationship that breaks up, you may be thinking that you want to get back at your ex but is this really the best step to take? One of the most influential ways that you can actually get back at your ex will not only put your ex in an interesting predicament, but it may also repair the relationship by showing your ex how important you are and were to them. So not only are these 5 tips to get back at your ex but they are also excellent methods for getting your ex back as well.

1 - Be strong. No one needs the needy, and this saying applies very well when it comes to broken up relationships. You need to stop begging, clinging or exhibiting the behavior of someone who is feeling desperate. Let your ex think that you have moved on just fine without them by acting strong and moving on. When you've moved on, your ex will realize that they have not.

2 - Minimize communication. Closing the doors of communication may appear counterintuitive when your primary focus is to rekindle things, but it is one of the most important steps when getting back at your ex or getting your ex back. Take a break from your ex, close off communication, and let him or her stew for a little while without any contact. This will allow your ex to clear his or her mind and realize how valuable your relationship was.

3 - Be flexible. Do not be forceful with your ex, demanding that they move out, or pick their things up by a certain date. Be flexible, be a listener and a sympathizer. Your ex will be surprised when they see this side of you, and it may inspire them to build the lines of communication that were lacking when the breakup came into play.

4 - Get the heck out! This is no time for you to be alone. Call your friends and get out of the house. Develop a social network and enjoy some entertainment in your life. This may not mean you need to date, or even pay attention to the opposite sex, but you do need to be getting out and enjoying your time with your friends. Not only will this be therapeutic for you, but it will also help convince your ex that they lost a gem.

5 - Simply be yourself. There was a really good reason for why you and your ex had a relationship to begin with, so go back to being yourself and let your ex remember why they loved you in the first place. This renewed self perception of your own self will surely rub off on your ex as well.

This perfectly illustrates the point I was making yesterday when we were all talking in the forums... This really drives home the importance of realizing how important and amazing the things are that you have right now, instead of waiting until someone is gone and wishing you had cultivated more loving relationships during the time you had together. This is a beautiful poem, and I'm not saying this is about "don't know what you got 'till it's gone," I'm just saying it really goes along with what I was saying...

~400 DAYS~

by Diane

The poem is dedicated to the authors children which she tragically lost in a fire

Every single day
every single night

this hurt inside
I try to fight

every single moon
ever single sun

the void, that is me
there’s no where to run

the leaves still fall
the flowers still grow

I still sit and wonder
where did you both go?

My heart always broken
I count all the ways

forever missing you both
even after 400 days

What Can I Do To Get My Ex Boyfriend Back

Here's another article from relationship helper guy TW, author of The Magic of Making Up.

What Can I Do To Get My Ex Boyfriend Back

Are you feeling like everything you do pushes your ex away further? Is this describing your situation to a tee? Are you asking "What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back" at every turn? Here are some tips that will greatly improve your chances of getting back together with your ex boyfriend.

Obviously right now you are serious about saving or rekindling your relationship, which is what led you to this article in the first place. But if you are feeling overly anxious to get your ex back, you may be behaving in the wrong way, causing your ex to pull away naturally. It is human nature in general to resist this kind of pressure. Struggling against human nature is completely pointless, and it will only make matters worse.

Are you calling your ex too much, constantly writing him e-mails or text messaging him? Are you trying to make him feel sorry for you? If you are doing these things, stop! If you are asking yourself " What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back", then you need to stop doing these things right now.

So What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back? Follow this strategy instead.

You are going to need to take a completely fresh approach. Begin by breaking contact off for a while, doing your own thing. During this time where there is no communication between you and your ex boyfriend, you can focus on ways that you can improve your own personal life, rather than focusing on the relationship issues at hand. This is going to be a challenging time, and it is going to require discipline to prevent you from returning to your old ways.

During this time, your ex is going to experience a shift in how he feels about you, since you will no longer be pursuing him. You may become mysterious to him in some ways, because he is not sure what you are doing or feeling. This is actually something that can work in your favor. Now your ex is in a position to actually miss you, which is not possible when you are smothering him.

You must remember that the key to this strategy and repairing a break up is to work with human nature rather than attempting to work against it. If you are wondering " What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back", now you should have a fairly basic understanding on how common mistakes can be avoided. Once you implement this basic strategy you can restore a balance and allow your ex to remember why he loved you in the first place.

Just keep yourself grounded and avoid smothering him. Make yourself appear mysterious and he will be reminded why he loved you in the first place. Play hard to get (don't over do it) and let him make the first move, and you will come out on top. And then you will stop asking "What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back"

Specific Advice - How Do I Get My Boyfriend Back, Magic of Making Up

Here's an article with a lot of specific advice for getting your boyfriend back that I want everyone here to read. The author is TW, a leading relationship expert. Let me know what you think, hope it helps!

Are there 'magic' words you can use
to get your ex to return your phone calls?

Sounds hard to believe but there ARE words
that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex
feel almost compelled to return your call.

Cool huh?...

I am going to share this with you because
this is one of the biggest questions I get
from the over 35,000 subscribers just
like you that are trying to put their relationship
back together.

So I am going to answer..."How do I get
my ex to return my phone call, text or IM?"


BUT...

***********
WARNING!
***********

In the Magic Of Making Up, I lay
out a complete strategy.
Have a PLAN!==> Magic of Making Up


If you use this technique alone, without
an 'overall' plan or strategy...you may
damage your relationship more than if
they never returned your call.

****************
What NOT to Say!
****************

Before we get into the actual words, let's
go over what message almost NEVER
works.

and worse...

Puts you in an AWFUL 'psychological' position.

These usually fall into 2 categories.

The PLEAD- Where the message sounds like

"John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd
time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you."

And the EMERGENCY-

"Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me
as soon as you get this."

Now, I think you can see what is wrong with
both of those approaches?

So, I won't go on and on...

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How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest
To Your Advantage
***********************************

Two of the most powerful forces in
the human mind are

*Curiosity &
*Self Interest

And here's the BIG SECRET!

When you combine the two, you
have a recipe that WILL work 'magic'

So...

Let's look at what you can say
that works nearly EVERY TIME.

In a friendly tone:

"Hi John. It's Cindy. I wanted to let
you know I appreciate what you did for
me. Call me because I want to thank you
in person."

Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity
and self interest?

John will NOT be able to resist! "What did I do?"
"What does she appreciate?" he will be thinking. And
he feels good because it is a positive message.

Now...

Before you call you need to do the
"Set Up"...which is figuring out what
he/she did that you appreciate.

It can be any small thing...but needs to
be plausible.

But more importantly...

************
2nd WARNING!
************

Please have an underlying strategy
like I lay out in the Magic Of Making
Up System BEFORE you call.

Have a PLAN!==> Magic of Making Up


If you apply this technique with
no underlying strategy and they
call you back you can do more
DAMAGE than good if you do not
handle it correctly.

Okay?

What I am saying is...

What you do before, during and
after you get them to return your
call is MORE important than getting
them to return your call.

Make sense?

Have a PLAN!==> Magic of Making Up

Rooting For You,
T Dub

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How Do I Get My Boyfriend Back? Unconventional Methods

Do you make these mistakes with your boyfriend?

• We try to convince them we are the love of their life

• We will apologize profusely for everything

• Promise to change for good this time

• Try to get them to see that it wasn't really our fault

• Even beg with them to take us back

…and of course with every word we utter, regardless of our intention, the more and more defensive, angry and distant they become.

Please know…this is not your fault! You weren't taught this in school. You probably weren't taught this by your parents…and there is no "get your ex back" night school...

And now as you will soon see...all that has changed.

WARNING: Unconventional Methods!

At this point, I must WARN YOU…STRONGLY WARN YOU…my advice and methods are VERY unconventional. I get relationship counselors and the like REALLY ANGRY because they are charging $50 to $100 an hour (sometimes for months and even years) and I can whisper just one of my methods in my friends ear…he DOES IT... And next thing you know... he's back home, laying back on the couch and watching LOST with his fiance on Thursday nights.

Now you are free to make up your own mind about me. I just don't believe that any amount of sitting in a classroom can make up for the REAL WORLD experience that I have under my belt…

I mean, what's a more valuable experience?…Listening to a lecture on libido? Or BEING THERE when my buddy's girlfriend is chucking his clothes and skivees out the bedroom window because she thinks he was with some tart the night before?

I don't know about you, my money is on the guy with the real world experience any day.

Now, if you are hanging out with me here today, I am guessing you have "relationship troubles" too? If you do…I think I can help…

Here's how I can help you.

If you have broken up and want to get your guy or gal back, obviously I can't talk too or be with everyone, I just don't have enough time…but I have done what I believe to be the next best thing…

I have put my years of experience…into a really easy to follow… love recipe for "getting back together"…and again I forewarn you right now…these are techniques and strategies that are NOT conventional wisdom…and I doubt you have ever read or heard these techniques before.

…and I'll tell you…

This stuff works! Maybe too well?

Frankly, I get a little freaked out about just how well it works…and worry that it may be used for less than honorable intentions. I mean I want to help GOOD people…I don't want to help JERKS get girls back that would be better off without them. I do NOT want to help "psycho chick" steal away a married man.

Like a knife, these techniques and principles can be used for great good or grave harm.

This is NOT FOR

• Stalkers

• Ex Convicts

• People with severe mental problems

• Other Crazies, Cuckoos or Whack Jobs

Okay?

If you want my help and aren't one of the lunatics listed above, check out my website.

Check out these testimonials I keep getting!

How Do I Get My Boyfriend Back? Magic.

If you want to get your boyfriend back...

There are a lot of people out there who think they know what they're talking about. Some of them do, most of them do not. But if you are serious about getting your boyfriend back, try these 5 mind blowing techniques...

#1 - Do not panic. Most people fly off the handle and act out of panic and raw emotion. This leads to stalking, obsession and what people refer to as a "psycho bitch" mindset. You must settle your mind before going into this. Make sure to talk the situation through with friends and family before resorting to something drastic that you will regret in the morning.

#2 - Figure out what went wrong. Take some time and delve deep into the reasons for losing your boyfriend. Deep down you probably know what went wrong. And if you know what went wrong, you are one step closer to fixing it. Make sure you tell your ex that you are trying to fix what went wrong. This lets him know where you are at in your mind and what it is that you want.

#3 - Spy Tactics. Send your friends to meet up with your ex and convince him that you really love him. He will listen to your friends because they are of an outside opinion. Plus he probably needs someone to talk to during this time period, too. And if he's talking to one of your friends they can help fix the situation. Have your friends report back to you and tell you what they think about it and get their advice on what to do next. Friends know best.

#4 - Always do for others; let others do for you. Offer to help your ex with something and do not hesitate to ask your ex to help you with something you need done. Working on a project together will give you both time together, working for a common goal. This creates a bond on a different level, and gives the brain a chance to relax.

#5 - Courting. Start the relationship all over from the beginning. Remember that awkwardness and electricity you felt the first time you went out together? That's what you're aiming for. You are two different people now, and if you are going to start over you've got to really start over completely.

If you do these five things you're sure to make a lot of progress towards getting your boyfriend back.

Listen carefully to what I'm about to say-

Make sure you do this! If you are really serious about your relationship, I strongly urge you to read everything in the report on the next page. It is important that you read this as soon as possible - The Magic of Making Up.